Visibility is a strange thing when you're LGBTQIA+. You want it. You fight for it. And it still costs something every single time. The pride and the fear show up together. And they don't cancel each other out. I did the calculation without even realising I was doing it. It was a good day. Me and my partner had been invited onto an LGBTQ+ podcast as a couple. And somewhere on the walk to the studio, I started telling myself a different story.